Whether we are workers, friends, husbands and wives, parents, or students, we all have the same question: “How am I doing?” Honest evaluation and feedback is a part of any healthy relationship. This is true in a workplace setting, a ministry, or in a family. We want to know where we are doing well and where we are weak. At the heart of every sincere friend of Jesus is the deep desire to love well. However, we often stumble and fall short in loving others well and want to know how we can improve.
What makes improvement difficult – in communication, in serving, and in collaboration – is that we have many “blind spots” in our lives. These are areas where we cannot see where we need the grace of God to help us change and grow. In some areas, we are simply unaware of where we are coming up short. In other areas, the problem is worse: we imagine that we are doing well when we are really a mess. Not only do we need help to grow and to mature in various areas of our lives, we need help to know where we need help.