I consider the decision to marry (and who we choose to marry) the single most important decision a person can make, apart from saying “yes” to the grace of God working in our lives unto salvation. Some Christians have a deterministic view of marriage. This means that they believe that God picks their spouse and leads them to that person. Then, the Lord moves their hearts to fall in love. This view is problematic for many reasons that are best addressed at another time. For now, it is easiest to simply say that there are aspects of the beauty of romance and marriage that genuinely delights the Lord. He loves to watch romance that we initiate unfold and love grow in our hearts for another.
It is mysterious and amazing that God leaves the single most important decision of our lives in our hands. He will help us, lead us, and serve us in the process. He will not, however, make the decision for us. This is a terrifying thought for many Christians. I have personally witnessed very emotional reactions to this idea. It does not have to be terrifying, however. There are a few very simple principles that can help us navigate the steps of dating, courtship, and marriage victoriously.